When Rami isn’t working with his EMDR clients, he’s usually sitting with a couple. Couples counseling is a great investment for relationships and marriages. Often times, couples find that even a proactive approach with a monthly session can be helpful in maintaining a strong and healthy marriage. With that, couples often find themselves in a place of distress and disruption in their marriage thinking to themselves, “I never imagined we’d be here.” We’re here to tell you, it’s okay that you’re struggling in marriage. No marriage is perfect and as you go through the different seasons of marriage, it’s okay to get professional help in order to facilitate communication, repair or reconciliation.
Rami is an astute listener and helps couples quickly identify the presenting problems. Here are some of the common concerns that couples often present with:
–Communication issues: Defensiveness, criticism, contempt and stonewalling are just some of the factors that often show up when a couple is having communication issues. By learning how to diffuse these obstacles, couples can learn how to communicate more assertively and effectively. Moreover, great communication is really about open and empathic listening. Therapy is a great place to learn more about that.
–Trust concerns & Affairs: Often times, marriages will experience a major trust violation. Repair can be a long and bumpy process. Therapy can be a great place to explore what trust it, how to rebuild it and what is needed to maintain trust.
–Stress of Parenting and Life: Couples commonly face an incongruence in parenting approach which can lead to marital distress. It’s important for the well-being of our children that we find common ground as parents and learn to effectively parent TOGETHER. This involves listening to one another with openness and curiosity.
-Sex and Intimacy: Many couples reach out to intimacy related concerns. Rami can help the couple explore where factions in intimacy started, why they started, why they’ve continued and how to work through that as a couple. Rebuilding intimacy often involves vulnerability which always involves good communication, good listening and TRUST.
-Pre-martial counseling: Whether required by a religious institution, or if a couple simply wants to have some pre-martial session, Rami can help lead you through all of the preemptive and proactive marital topics that we like to see address before the knot is tied. We offer a 6-session special to couples that are either engaged or are within 1 year of marriage.
-Trauma: In many marriages, one half of the couple has experienced trauma. And while trauma is important to work through individually, it can be important for the couple to work together to identify needs and best ways to support. Rami has extensive experience with the trauma population and can help you and your spouse work through trauma as a couple if it is causing distress in the marriage.